10 signs, how to distinguish real negative criticism from the private views

Subject criticism raised in my previous articles , suddenly was continued. First, one girl wrote in a commentary that is experiencing the worst obstruction in one forum, after which the moderator was even forced to apologize for such an attitude. And the question is how to deal with such criticism. Next, I have on my website was faced with a critical-minded statements. All this gave me the idea that there are absolutely two different things: on the one hand, this criticism, on the other hand, a negative personal opinion expressed by the man.

So let's try to understand the differences between these two concepts, and on what grounds can recognize this criticism. In terms of practical application that will give you the opportunity to identify some of the statements in your direction as a negative personal opinion and therefore you will have the full right to respond accordingly, so that this opinion does not hurt you. In general, the idea is, if the critic does not comply with at least one of the following items, then it is not a criticism, and negative personal opinion.

A. Criticism is always friendly
criticism of itself, if only because that person has to indicate his shortcomings and mistakes, is a very delicate matter and ticklish. In general, aerobatics is the ability to indicate an error while not offending the interlocutor and causing him to justify himself, so he has to say and thank you. So for me the fundamental rule of criticism is its friendliness and goodwill.

Two. Criticism has always argued
criticisms are always based on some analysis and information gathering. Therefore, the presence of reasonable arguments to support the opinion expressed welcome. Although such things as a bug in the code, the evidence seems to be useless, and sometimes simply to point out the error. But when criticism of the visual component of the unequivocal errors are much harder to specify, if only because of the subjectivity of opinions.

Three. Criticism is always doubting
Where there is no unambiguous criteria and its own critical opinion is based on subjective preferences, peremptory generally unacceptable. Everyone has different tastes, so I think it should be understood that the opinion may be erroneous, or equivalent. So all sorts of "maybe ..." or "as an option ..." are welcome.

4. Criticism does not use cuss words
never tire of repeating, if you hear "Terrible," "Sucks," "ugly" or something like that, you have every right to ignore such comments. If these phrases are accompanied by paragraph 2, then it is up to you, listen to the opinions of the author or not. At Lynch at Tema Lebedev encountered phrases and pohlesche. The main thing to decide whether it is acceptable to you.

Five. The criticism is not based on negative emotions
There are times when reading criticism, clearly understand what the author when writing lines moved only some of his personal emotions. So what about constructive criticism then just say no. Basically it is anger, anger, powerlessness, impunity, poor mood, and so on. A person wants to say more disgusting than to criticize. Just realize that the person moving the emotions that do not have any relation to you and ignore such things.

6. Criticism does not use technology
here, I would like to address the subject of criticism on the forums or other large communities. There should be clear that any forum - it is well-established community with its actors. Therefore, criticism often appears under any scenario, and in view of what that technology, which you do not even suspect. And usually, she's your job - this is not the main character.

So, often on the forums by clicking on the nose like novices, regardless of the quality of their work. Moreover, sometimes the criticism becomes angrier, if the beginner will feel a potential competitor. As a rule, each forum has its own guru, whose opinion sets the tone for the criticism. So you can easily ogresti as negative, and a wave of rave reviews. Still a lot of positive criticism you can get from beginners forum, which thus gaining his or posts, or rating. In general, the forums have their own pitfalls, and current.

7. Criticism recognized authority
I think you should always watch who you criticize. And most of all, the opinion of the honored master with a huge portfolio, or other services will be for you is more important than the opinion of incognito, without any markings. The higher the prestige, the more independent and constructive opinions would be, if only because that authority, as a rule, do not have anyone to share.

Eight. Criticism involves a dialogue
is another sign of this criticism - it is an opportunity to engage in dialogue about their work. Maybe it is you will be able to convince the interlocutor of the error of his opinions, and maybe vice versa, he acknowledge that the proposed version and better and more efficiently. But here too, caution should be exercised. You should not shove a rebuttal for anyone who starts to criticize you. You can listen sometimes.

9. Criticism encourages professional growth
If you have a session and there was criticism of a strong desire to sit down and do the job better than the last, and faith in their abilities just rolls over, well, I heartily congratulate you. This is a situation where criticism is gone for good. And as the water of life, it mobilizes energy to the new design exploits and encourages your professional growth. But in nature is rare.

10. Criticism is always only on request
For me it is also one of the immutable rules. I criticize only when asked. Otherwise, get to impose their views. You should specifically identify the case when you knowingly publish your work out there, where it is assumed to evaluate the work. Then yes, be prepared for criticism. But if you put your work in order to sell, for example, on the same forum, you may specify that the criticism is not needed, but you are only interested in opinions on the merits.

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